I‘ll never forget the discomfort of having to look myself in the mirror several years ago. At that time, I had been about five years into working out and going to the gym.
I was starting to get a little ego because I was looking fit, muscular, and was much closer to the physique I wanted than before.
I was getting all puffed up, and my girlfriend at the time said,
“Calm yourself down… you don’t look that good.”
That was the first day that I realized that, just like a lot of people, the way I saw myself, and the way the world saw me, were two entirely different things.
The Weight Loss Hack to End All Weight Loss Hacks: Looking In the Mirror
What’s interesting is how quickly “looking in the mirror” (e.g. seeing ourselves as we really are), can improve a person’s life.
And it’s interesting how many of us will do anything to avoid that.
People ironically hate the truth, because what if the truth entails realizing that you are the cause of the recent fifty-pound weight gain?
What if the truth meant that you put yourself $50,000 in debt?
What if the truth meant that some flaw you had is what lost you most of your close friends?
That’s a hard truth to swallow.
Because it means that if we caused the problems, we are our own salvation. And it’s far easier to blame circumstances outside our control. It’s easier to blame genetics, God, the economy, our brother in law, or some other factor.
It’s much harder to realize that we have created our own hell, and can create our own heaven.
People hate accepting that they might be incongruent.
What happens if you say you take good care of yourself to the doctor, but you’re actually diabetic, have heart disease, and need to get fit?
Are you really taking good care of yourself?
What happens if you preach good financial intelligence to your children but you’re $100,000 in debt?
Are you really doing the financial principles you talk about so much?
What happens if you espouse the virtues of being a good person, and yet you come home and scream at your family members?
Are you really walking the talk of being a person of virtue?
Ultimately, for people, nothing is more painful than looking in the mirror. Looking ourselves in the eye.