Why Do You Really Want to Get Fit? Your Muse Will Determine Your Pain
As a young kid, I never understood people. I never understood why people would spend 60+ hours a week working a job they hate, just to exist on one piece of land (to repeat hating most of their lives).
I never understood why people would get defensive when they were told, “you need to slim down a bit” or “you need to eat a little more” (even though I myself was defensive about these things, too).
I never understood why men and women claimed they wanted to date a certain kind of person, and yet, dated the opposite.
It took me many more years of observing the way people live to understand that behind what we think, there are deeper reasons for what we do.
What’s The Real Reason You Want to Lose Weight?
Here’s a simple example.
When I have asked hundreds (maybe thousands or tens of thousands of people now) why they want to lose weight, I’ve heard an almost unlimited number of similar-sounding answers:
I want to get healthier.
I want to stop feeling limited in life, like there are things I can’t do.
My mom just died of Alzheimer’s… and that scares the hell out of me.
I’m sick and tired of feeling sick and tired.
I’m tired of looking fat as hell.
But when you dig deeper, some of the most impressive weight loss success stories I’ve featured here have said things like:
I want my husband to want to have sex with me again.
I want to show my annoying friends that I’m capable of looking crazy fit again.
I want people to flirt with me sexually again.
I want to start dating again.
Food is like a best friend for me. It’s always there when I can count on it to make me feel good… I want to stop feeling out of control.
I’m tired of looking like a fat whale in the mirror every day.
It’s interesting. There are the socially acceptable answers like, “I just want to get healthier.”
And then there are the real, visceral answers, like “I want my husband to sexually want me again.”
Well, what really drives you?
Your Fuel Source Determines The Pain You Will Endure
“He who has a ‘why’ to live for, can bear almost any ‘how.'”
Maybe you have a relatively “deep” or relatively “superficial” reason for wanting to lose weight or change your life.
What’s the big deal?
The big deal is that the fuel source you choose, will determine the pain you are willing to endure to reach your goals.
If you want to get fit because you want to show your mom (after thirty years) that you can finally stick to something, it might work.
It might not.
If you want to desperately lose weight because your husband or wife will leave you because you gained fifty pounds and don’t take care of yourself, it’s a lot more likely to work.
Much more likely.
If you want to lose weight to impress your friends, and show them just how good you look half naked on a beach, there might be motivation.
Or it might thin out as time goes on.
The one guarantee is that when you know what drives you, you can figure out what inspires you.
Is it the fear of dying early, because you saw a parent go that way?
If it because you want to feel sexually desired again?
Is it to save your marriage?
Is it because you’re sick and tired of looking like _____ in the mirror every day?
The paradox of understanding your own psychology, is that once you know what drives you, you will know how to set yourself free.